"My name is Pamela, I live in Varedo (not far from Milan ), and this is
my story, like many others, of an unemployed Italian mom.
Camilla and I (my little girl) usually wake up around in the
morning. We get ready for our daily activities in a relaxing and
peaceful environment. We wake ourselves up, snuggle, and read fairy
tales before we leave for the park. We sometimes go to the post
office, the supermarket, the farm, the bakery, and so on... in any case,
we get out!
We come back home a little before lunch and we cook a good meal which
It is never wasted. Camilla is 2 years old and she still naps
in the afternoon: a blessing for me, I have 2 hours of peace, during
which I can do quiet housework. After her Camilla's nap, we get ready
for some new adventures. We visit a friend's house, the playground,
and to see grandma who always welcomes us and is great company.
We don't like staying at home, we feel lonely. We stay home only when
it's raining heavily or when we're sick (which rarely happens, thank
God); in this case we make bricolage.
We have an 80square meters apartment, it's not small, but
we feel boxed in. Twice a week we go to a special space for kids and
parents inside the public kindergarten. It's a fun alternative, I can
meet many other moms and some lively, rowdy kids.
Thank you mayor for this space, the idea is great and we feel
comfortable there, but it is too expensive for Single Income Families!
Late in the afternoon we go back home and we get ready for dinner. We
try to wait for dad, but often we cannot because he usually comes back
from work late so we have dinner romantically on a little table for
kids.
Sometimes, two hours of wild playing with Ale (my husband, he loves
playing with Camilla) is not the healthiest thing to do before sleep.
At I still find myself ironing, washing, hanging up the laundry
and tidying up the house, a mom doesn't much care for kids running
amok.
This is a typical day, the same more or less to the other 364 days of
the year, very similar in certain ways to a working man's day, but
still too little appreciated and considered.
People like me, who have lost their job because of the economic breakdown
and/or because of motherhood (in my case both, the former
justifying the ladder) knows what I mean: equal opportunities don't
exist! I had personally to give up opportunities at work to be able to afford the luxury of raisinga child.
It's ok with me, I don't complain, Camilla is the joy of my life and
it couldn't be any different. I don't regret my choices at all, and just to see her smile, I would suffer any work mortification again.
But please, allow me to take out a little stone from my shoe. In
still too often unusual for a mom, even jobs at the mall, like
cashiers, are going extinct thanks to automated machines.
It's very easy for a mom to get trapped in depressed housewife
syndrome. You lose professional qualifications, experience, youth,
and sometimes your health or your mind. The time flies by, you live
day after day, and you give up having long term plans because savings
belong to ages past. (it's impossible to save money nowadays!) All
said among us, I love taking care of my house, cooking for my husband,
and entertaining my daughter and her friends; but housewives need to
be more appreciated, they have to be given a proper place in society.
Socially, they are very useful!
Contemporary society imposes tight schedules (only the rich have
“free-time”) and low standards of living which can be refused. Will
is power, therefore I invite all of you to want and fight for better
conditions for ourselves and our daughters and sons".